Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Carly Fleischmann, an Autistic Breakthough

From time to time, I will be speaking with people who I think have the WORST communication skills and think to myself, "This person has the personality of a toad!" I'm positive that I'm not alone in this line of thinking, and that all of you can share in this from at least one point in your lives, right?

I feel that I hold people in contempt for being unexpressed because I feel that it's a choice in life that they make. Certainly there are certain people where communication comes easy to them, and then there are others who really have to work on it because it doesn't come as easily. When it doesn't come easily, and you see it as "work", people tend to not want to be committed to being good at it. So they remain unexpressed, and their life runs accordingly. These people will sometimes feel that they are not understood, that what they have to say doesn't matter, or that they simply can't put into words how they feel.

Well, I thought that all of these were limitations from people's brains until I saw this video today. Certainly, being human is a science that we will never be able to know everything about, yet this video really shows me that there is a voice inside all of us that is dying to come out, and express who we are as human beings.

I want to introduce you to Carly Fleischmann whose story you can see in this video below. Her story is nothing less than incredible, and inspiring on every human level. The reason I wanted to share this story with you is to show you that no matter what your circumstances are in life, you can still live a powerful life, and one you choose to love.

After watching this video, I want you to tell me that you can be a person who is committed to being heard, because your voice actually matters in this world. It takes dedication and belief that this is possible, yet the reward is oh so worth it.

We all have this intelligence inside of us. It is only our own way of being that limits this from being expressed. And just like Carly Fleischmann, we all have genius inside of us. It just depends on when we choose to show it.

Thursday, January 12, 2012

My Novel Update

I haven't written much about the updated version of what's going on in my novel lately, so I thought I would share some of this with you.

There have been some real great moments, and some really not so great moments in writing this book. Lately, I haven't been writing at all in my novel. I was really stuck and couldn't edit a lot out of the novel simply because I was too attached to the writing, rather than the message of the book. As soon as I realized that I was committed to the message of the novel, editing became almost exponentially easier.

Also, I was finding that since I started writing this book over 2 years ago, that my writing style and ability has changed dramatically. Practicing writing has really developed my writing style and storyline. In reading this, I simply cannot "fix" all the different styles and moods I was in to correct this, so I am faced with having to write it all over again from the start.

The good news about this, is that I feel that I can accomplish this in 3 months with the storyline and template that I have already written in place.

Instead of being overwhelmed by the amount of writing I am committed to doing again, I am overjoyed that the project has been able to be reborn and will be consistent in every part of the story and the experiences I have learned from will only add to the novel instead of detracting from it.

I am excited about this, and I can't wait to share it with you all.

I will keep you posted!!


Sunday, January 8, 2012

Nice Mangina

I really don't like the New York Giants.

In fact, I don't like them for many reasons, none of which are really relevent since they are only my opinion. Opinions are like Belly Buttons, and every one has one.

However, I do like The Dallas Cowboys. They are rivals of the Giants, and their wide receivers actually have penises, and not a vagina like Hakeem Nicks has as shown in this picture.

By the way Hakeem, a simple panty liner takes away the dreaded "Camel Toe" It seems that everyone but you knows this. Live and learn I guess...

Happiness is a Choice

I was watching the movie, "The Fighter" with Mark Wahlberg and Christian Bale in it last week, and I was really disturbed that people actually CHOOSE to live like that.

The one term that came to mind when watching the characters portrayed in this movie was "White Trash." I mean the ending of the movie was great, and it had its moments, yet, there was still a long way to go to get there. Kinda like life, right?

Then it hit me when I thought that Happiness is actually a choice we make in life. In every circumstance, you may not be able to control what happens to you, yet you can certainly control your reaction, or how you choose to view it.

So if you were to choose to see things on a positive side and choose to look at everything that happens for a reason, whether or not it went according to how you wanted it to go, it would have a big difference in the way you view life occurring to you. Hmmmmmm...

I have an example from my own life that I would like to share with you about this...

I was late for a client lunch because I took a wrong turn in getting there. When I realized it and turned around, I realized that I was not going to be able to make it there at the agreed time so I called my client and told them that I would be possibly 15 minutes late. I was like a mad man trying to get there! I was honking my horn at everyone who I felt wasn't driving as fast as I wanted them to, and I was a wreck.

When I finally got to the address that my client had given me, it was a hair salon and not a restaurant. Well, this just threw me over the edge. I double checked to make sure that I had the right address and that I wasn't going crazy. Yep, I had the correct address and my client had given me the WRONG address. So immediately I went into making them wrong, and trying to preserve my sanity. -Sound familiar?

When I was looking at this salon, a woman was just then walking out towards me. "Chuck, is that you?"

"Yes" I said.

It turns out that this woman who just moved into this salon was a friend of a friend I used to hang out with in the 1990's and I had lost touch with them even though I had been looking for them for over 10 years.
Co-incidence? No way, I don't believe in co-incidences anymore.

So, here I was trying to thwart off all of this that was happening to me when at the end of the day, it was all happening for a reason and a purpose. I ended up finally touching base with my old friends and making it to my client meeting with an amazing story, and it all worked out perfectly. As soon as I accepted that things in life are not going to go according to the way my agenda is set up, and realize that a larger power is at play with my best interest in mind, my life got exponentially easier to deal with.

Now I don't see things that don't go according to my way as "failures", rather as experiences that are happening perfectly in my world. I mean, how arrogant is it to think that the entire world should work the way we want to control it when we have NO idea whatsoever that it is happening for a reason that we can't see yet.

We cannot connect the dots moving forward, only looking backwards. So if you were to look at your future this way, allow the dots to connect as they may and accept that choosing that option is a way that will enable you to choose happiness, rather than looking at life as a struggle. If you look at life as a struggle, then it always WILL be a struggle. Yet if you choose to look at life happening to you as perfect, then you choose happiness, and life will be much more workable for you, and those around you.

So try this for a week. If you really want to commit to a more powerful life, try it for a month. Give your word to the fact that you will not react negatively to anything during this time. It will be a greater experience than you thought it would be. Watch the reaction of the people around you and see how you occur for them moving forward. -It might really surprise you to see how other people now treat you.

Thursday, January 5, 2012

Canadian Juniors vs. Team Russia

Team Russia 6, Team Canada 5

Team Russia will play Team Sweden for Gold, while our Canadian boys will come out like a house on fire and beat up on Team Finland for the Bronze. They might as well give that medal to the Finns, who would appreciate it far more than we as Canadians do. For us as Canadians in hockey, the only colour medal to us that matters is Gold. Yet not to play for the Gold is completely unacceptable to us. Losing to the Russians?   -It's the absolute worst way to do it.

What a meltdown...

I thought long and hard about writing a blog about the Canadian Jr's before the start of the tournament on Boxing Day. My gut feeling on the matter was this:

That Canada would not win Gold this year again, and have another meltdown

Yet my heart wanted to believe the following:

That we as a nation solved the problems from years gone by, and we were committed to showing the world that we were the best nation of hockey period, and beat the hell out of every team in every game by at least 2 goals.

Obviously, my heart was in the right place, yet my gut feeling won...again.

However, where most people see disappointment and heartache, I see opportunity.

I see an opportunity present itself when a kid like Boone Jenner takes it upon himself to spear another player that costs his team an opportunity that eventually came up short. It occurs to me that when a player does this, the entire message of his character comes out, and it hasn't been instilled into him that this is not even an option on how to react on Team Canada.

Judging from the head coach of Team Canada Don Hay, I see this how this has been allowed. Hay had this to say about the incident,

"He was kind of provoked into the situation. I know he should have more discipline and stay away from that, but there was no need for the Russian player to come over to him after he had been hit," said Hay.

"When you play an emotional game like that, you do things that you regret later. I'm sure Boone regrets doing that and I'm sure he'd rather be playing than sitting out."

What complete horseshit. This is EXACTLY the reflection of why our program is coming up short in International Hockey.

This reflects the lack of discipline that the team has, and it shows that the coaching and mentoring are absent from above. The lackluster effort that Team Canada showed us was pathetic, and not at all representative of the game these kids were trained to play. This was proven even moreso by the comeback that the Canadians mounted when faced with a 6-1 deficit, and how hard they worked to get back in that game. That effort proved that they were capable of playing that kind of hockey, and having that work ethic.

The loss? Sure it hurts, yet we could look at it as a sign of what to improve on. There is nothing wrong with our resources to field a world class team of Junior hockey players. However, it is the mental game that we are getting beaten on that needs to be evaluated. Simply put, just because you have the best hockey players in the world, does not necessarily mean that you have the best hockey team in the world.

Tuesday, January 3, 2012

Being Unstoppable With Your New Year's Resolutions

It's a great time for people watching as the New Year of 2012 comes into our lives. Everyone always has these New Year's Resolutions of losing weight, spending more time with family, earning more money, and right about at the end of January or the start of February, everyone falls off their goals. It happens like clockwork every time.

There are a number of reasons for this, yet in the end, reasons and excuses don't really matter do they? If the reason or excuse is stronger than the will or goal, then one subsides to the other. Most of us simply aren't built to withstand that negative voice inside our heads that tell us that we can win. -Whether you say you are or you aren't, you're right.

I think one of the biggest things I've learned in 2011 is that people who play in big games in their lives, have a better relationship to failure than people who play small games in life. People who are content being small in their lives do so because their relationship to failure is not as strong. If they encounter failure, they get stopped, and it affects them so much that they don't want to continue.

However, people who are living big lives have a much different relationship with failure. They literally fail big ALL THE TIME, and it never stops them. They simply don't allow failure to stop them. Sure, they lick their wounds along the way, but I promise you that anyone who has something that you lust after has had some really big failures in their lives getting to where they have gotten. They have really earned their spot where they are, and as much as we would like to think that they were lucky, they weren't.

So if you look at your relationship to failure, how does it affect you? Does it stop you from living a big life? Does fear enter into your realm and stop you from achieving what could be possible because you are so worried about what might happen, or how you might look if it doesn't work out? Are you afriad of what others will think it is doesn't work out?

I have to be honest, I fell into that category. I had a really big fear of success. I had no relationship to failure that would enable me to carry on once things didn't go the way I wanted them to. I mean, it was easy to keep going when things WERE going my way, yet it takes no character to have that happen, does it, because anyone can do that. The real muscle comes from the stopping point, and exercising that muscle to get those failures to become successes is the key to being unstoppable.

The real key comes from developing that muscle from WHY it is you are doing. If your "why" is bigger than your failure, then you will continue forward. If not, you will simply quit and move on to something less difficult and live a smaller life. -And there is nothing wrong about that, it's just that you won't live the bigger life that you wanted to live. But realistically, you aren't geared for that game anyway. You are only geared for how big your reason is behind what you are doing. Big reasons will end up finding a way to win. Weak reasons will result in settling, as we all do.

So, now that the New Year is here, what kind of a game are you prepared to play?